Okay, I've written on this topic before. I've actually been published in the Navy Times on the topic in the past, but with the new administration, I think it's timely to bring it up again. The fate of "Don't ask, don't tell" will likely be reviewed in the very near future.
First, do not take this analysis as "gay bashing." I have nothing against gays and quite frankly, have some very good friends who are gay. Their lifestyle in no way impacts mine. Why? Because they don't live with me.
This topic is approached strictly from a logistical perspective. There really is no way else to approach it lest we get bogged down in emotions and start yelling at one another. Though my analysis (yes ANALYSIS, which means based on data), will be Navy focused, many of the same principles apply across the services. I will also approach this mainly from the male perspective as the associated female (hetero and homo) side can be deduced.
BerthingMen and women are berthed (sleeping arrangements) separately for a variety of reasons to include social mores. Other reasons include the rights of women to NOT be subjected to unwanted sexual pressure either real or perceived. Where would the military berth gays? In two man rooms, or submarine 9-man bunk rooms, do you sleep gay men with straight men? Do you subjugate the rights of the straight men to those of the gay men? Why would straight men not be given the same rights as women in the same situation faced with being berthed with the opposite sex or those who desire you sexually?
True, gay men are not the "opposite sex" genetically, but in terms of sexual preference they are. If their natural tendency is to desire men, then berthing them with straight sailors is IDENTICAL to berthing men and women together. Until the services are willing to do that, they are not ready to integrate gays into the military. Logically you should be able to berth gay men with straight women (as they naturally do not desire one another) and gay women with straight men correct? I'd like to see that one proposed to females in the services. I haven't
even touched on the topic of transgendered and cross-dressers!
The other alternative is berthing areas based on sexual preference. Gay men, straight men, gay women, and straight women. Four different berthing areas. Sound stupid? Sure, but it's the only alternative as long as society (and the military) says men and women can't share the same sleeping quarters. That would be a logistical nightmare, cost prohibitive, and not workable from a ship design perspective in any reasonable form.
Bathroom FacilitiesSimilar to the berthing issue, bathroom facilities are largely shared areas in the Navy. Usually
onboard ship, but can be found in places like large training centers. The same theory applies here. If women will not be forced to endure men sharing the same bathroom facilities AT THE SAME TIME, then you cannot force straight men to endure gay men utilizing the same facilities as well. Sorry folks, this is not "homophobia." It's applying the same exact logic to "sexes" that desire one another sexually." The term "homophobia" is used quite conveniently to digress the conversation from the logical to the emotional.
Legal IssuesSexual
harassment prevention, awareness and remediation is ingrained in every sailor from day one of entry. Sexual
harassment training right now is based on men and women and their interactions. How do we now deal with gays? Berthing same sex sailors together will be opening up the services to many more cases of sexual harassment. There is no difference in sexual harassment from the same gender than the opposite gender.
Sexual harassment is "unwelcome . . . verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature . . . ."
29 C.F.R. § 1604.11(a)The close quarters military members are often forced to endure does invade personal space and is intimate in nature. The intimacy is generally not an issue when that intimacy is shared by not only same sex individuals but those who share a sexual desire for the "gender" not present. That is no longer the case if the intent is to berth gay sailors with straight sailors. The legal minefield that will ensue will be unlike any seen in recent years.
Notice at no time in this discussion did I base it on the ability to do the job. Why? Because obviously, gays can do the job since they've been in the services and ARE in the services. But military service isn't a right. Your RIGHTS are delineated in the amendments to the Constitution (1-27). The public often confuses rights with privileges. It's a privilege to serve and entry requirements are based on what is in the best interest of the ENTIRE service, not just one subset of it. That best interest determination includes everything; cost, services, morale, capabilities etc. Just because the public thinks it's a good idea doesn't make it so.
Don't ask, don't tell works BECAUSE that line of sexual desirability is not crossed in intimate situations such as sleeping or berthing arrangements and shared bathroom accommodations. Things only become an issue if you know about them. And yes, knowing about them does change the environment.
Fair is fair. Not many guys I know that would mind sharing the same quarters as women. Nor would I think gay men would mind sharing the same quarters as straight men. Bring it on. Force women to accept men in their sleeping quarters. When you've done that, come back here and I promise you, my position will change and I will become the biggest advocate for gays in the military. I doubt you'd get a resounding acceptance from women on their RIGHT to separate sleeping arrangements being abridged. So therefore, both sexes should be afforded the same right to appropriate berthing.